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I, You or We?

The one question I always ask myself at the end of writing a piece for not only this blog but other platforms is, “am I teaching or sharing?”. If there is one thing I am super sensitive to it’s the style of presenting the material I write.

Personally, I find it difficult read a blog post where the writer refuses to acknowledge their own shadow and stands on a pedestal as if they aren’t human and reign queen or king of perfection. How is that style going to help the reader if all they do is listen to what someone else thinks they should do? Isn’t this going to further the separation amongst people even more? When we read that someone we admire has similar challenges that we do does it not make us feel more oneness?

I digress. So, is a piece written from the sole basis of a personal sense of “I” not as worthy as a post written from the standpoint of “you?”

For instance: I read something last week that read “If you suffer from discouragement than this post is for you.” I immediately felt tightness in my neck which is a signal to me something isn’t sitting right within me. What I think the writer meant was, “If you are like me and suffer from discouragement than this blog post might be helpful.” Doesn’t that small shift make a huge difference? Just a couple of words can wrap our arms around the reader and give them a big hug before reading material they may be sensitive to.

Personal Style of Writing

This post is very near and dear to me because I am an example of someone who used to listen to other people diligently and do exactly what they told me. As you can imagine, that way of living got me nowhere, fast. I found myself in every rabbit hole with french fries, crying on the floor of my bathroom asking for help. You may think this sounds pathetic, but I bet some of you reading this know that place, too.

When I walked away from the people, who tried to teach me and found Moe, the one person who never advised me and only led me to my answers I vowed I would never give advice again. I would like to say in the last five years I have never given straight up advice but I haven’t. I make it a practice to write from my perspective and share what I have learned. I do hope it makes a difference.

When I occasionally use what I call a “teaching style” of writing such as “you will have to do this or you will find this” I feel inauthentic. When I say, “we can learn how to (fill in the blank)” it still doesn’t feel aligned with my inner style of writing. So, I will stick with sharing from what I have learned, and the pea sized wisdom I have been given.

I am grateful to be here, and I hope you know that within you, behind your heart is an opening that holds every answer you need to live life to the fullest.

I would love to know how you feel about a post written from a sharing standpoint. How do you feel when someone tries to teach you? Do you like that? Of course I am only referring to self-development personal discovery material, not photoshop and photography!

Have a lovely day,


  • November 28, 2015 - 6:06 pm

    Nicole - I agree wholeheartedly with your approach. I do not respond well to preachers, but respond exceptionally well to shared stories and experiences. It is such an important detail as we all grow and learn together and I have never heard someone articulate this idea out loud although I’ve recognized it for myselfReplyCancel

  • November 28, 2015 - 6:11 pm

    Nicole - (Oops, accidentally hit post comment before I was finished)
    I recognized this for myself years ago. Thank you for saying it out loud!! It brings peace to hear this somehow.ReplyCancel

    • December 5, 2015 - 4:26 pm

      Jocelyn - Hi Nicole,

      I am so glad this brought you peace. Wishing you a lovely weekend, Jocelyn xReplyCancel

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