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Hello there! We are in the small town of Carmel-by-the-Sea for a month enjoying the cooler temperatures and inspiring nature along the coast of California. The little village boasts more charm than any other city in America I have ever visited. Coolwhip and Popcorn are in heaven with endless beaches to run free on and the best part is that it’s legal! YAY! I am not a good “rule breaker”, and I feel most comfortable following the rules in order to not get into trouble-this is something I have been working on for a very long time and hasn’t released fully (yet).

Whilst walking along the shoreline of the Pacific Ocean this morning I welcomed lessons to be revealed to me that I must learn in order to further my evolvement as a human being.

Everywhere I go I ask to be guided and led as to where to go, who to meet and what to say.

Knowing a good lesson is always just a deep breath away, I watched as both my dogs were sort of annoying another dog causing some anxiety towards the black lab. I immediately approached the owner and apologized for their behavior and we ended up having a delightful conversation about how to allow dogs to figure situations out on their own. For so long I have been trying to control their behavior in order to keep other people happy. I know enough about animal behavior to know that every animal figures it out at some point. I am so grateful to Carol for being patient and understanding as well as genuinely caring.

As we walked back to the house we are renting just a few short blocks from the beach I suddenly realized Carol’s approach to allowing animals to be animals is very similar to my way:

I do not prefer to be told what to do. I do not prefer to be controlled. I do prefer to allow myself the time and space to figure out what is best for me.

Just recently I have been led to work with several young women whom I mentor. My job is to guide them in applying the practical principles they create into their daily lives to incorporate more peace, purpose, meaning and value into each moment.

I am not a teacher or a coach. I do not profess to know everything nor do I want to. It is my belief that we have every answer we need within us; we just forget from time to time that we have the recipe to create miracles in our lives.




It is never my intention to “figure it out” for them-my job is simply to listen, share my experience if need be and allow them to come to their own answers. The lesson from today was that when I ask for something to be revealed to me I need to be mindful of what I am doing in every moment. One moment of not breathing consciously or being aware of my hectic human mind could block the entire learning moment. Lessons are kind of like waves, they are plentiful. Some hard, some gentle and all equally as profound.


Ending thought: Wisdom is the result of humility and deep inner reflection.

Practice: Every morning we hit the reset button and begin again to learn more, become more aware and allow others to be empowered through our genuine support.

Mantra: I choose to be helpful rather than judgmental.

I hope this post has been helpful and inspiring to you. Please do feel free to leave a comment below if you have something you wish to share with all of us.

Wishing you and everyone you meet a beautiful day,



Carmel Beach





  • September 5, 2014 - 12:26 am

    Kim - Oh how beautiful. I hope you’re having the best time. It really is a special place.ReplyCancel

  • September 5, 2014 - 12:24 pm

    Tamara - Thank you .. I just need to position myself daily , moment by moment
    To learn the lesson , to Live AWARE & intentional.. BlessingsReplyCancel

    • September 5, 2014 - 3:50 pm

      Jocelyn - Thank you, Tamara!ReplyCancel

  • September 5, 2014 - 1:25 pm

    Anya Jensen - Hey Sweet Jocelyn.

    I too try and teach my girls to be caring and to care for others. Its’ difficult sometimes not telling them what to do, as sometimes one needs too. I hope they know why and that they know I respect them and hopefully they’ll grow up to be 2 happy girls:-)

    I love the picture of you and Coolwhip and Popcorn – you look amazing and happy – which is fab. Hope you have a marvellous time there, the beaches look divine.

    Many hugs xxxReplyCancel

    • September 5, 2014 - 3:54 pm

      Jocelyn - Hello Sweet Anya,

      I always love reading your comments. I can imagine it is not so easy to not tell your children what to do. I will be learning this very soon 🙂 I do believe that the parents role is to be an example for their children, that is the biggest and most important role a mother and father can have. Knowing you has been a gift and I am sure your girls receive so much love that they then take into the world to share with others!

      We are having a wonderful time here, the salty air on the beach is refreshing but not so much for the hair! Frizz city! Never mind that though! Lots of love to you and your family. Thank you for being an example to so many. Jocelyn xxReplyCancel

  • September 9, 2014 - 10:15 am

    mel - What a beautiful photo of you with coolwhip and popcorn! You’re positively radiant in that image. Life is such a wonderful teacher. Have a great time! Mel xReplyCancel

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