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Why I don’t share Everything

Sharing is caring, or at least that is what I grew up learning. In sharing with others, I lend my support in the form of the lessons I have learned along the way. I have been humbled to the point of being taken to my knees, and I have met the rock bottom of life many times. I chose to work on myself and be better and in return, I share the stories of hope with the world. However, I do not share everything.

For a long time, I shared many ideas with other creatives only to find them being used and implemented by them before I could get a chance to get the project going myself. I often felt used and disrespected, so I immediately stopped sharing my ideas with people.

In 2012, I drove to Los Angeles to present an idea to a well-known magazine only to find out after three months they took the concept and the credit. I wasn’t aware of the impact this had on me although I continued to share openly and freely with just about anyone.


A blog I used to read asked for advice on a design project that I thought was brilliant and chimed in to add some ideas that she asked for. A day later, I saw my exact illustration was used on her blog and of course she received all the glory. Lesson slightly learned.

I wanted to produce beautifully framed mantras for adults and children so eager to learn how; I went to a company who specialized in creating such things. Guess what appeared on their website? Mantras, framed. Lesson learned.

Coincidence or lesson? I chose a lesson. I am here to learn, to be humbled and to live from my heart, so every lesson that comes to me serves as an opportunity for me to see it as a letdown or a lesson. Putting power in people is something I have done for my entire life and it is only until now I have begun to let that go.

At the end of the day, if those ideas were meant for me then they would have stayed with me. Maybe those people needed them more than me? I will be honest in saying it hurt, and it was hard to move beyond it, but I did.  Today, I share my experiences in hopes that they may help others who find themselves in the same situation. There is only a handful of people I would share ideas with because I understand the quality of their integrity.

It isn’t so much about being rewarded; it is about our ideas being held sacredly in the hands of those we share.

One reminder that always helps me with this is something Moe told me a long time ago: Assume everyone wants to be in their higher self. If they would, they could.

Life is full of lessons, and we all have the ability to shift the paradigm and witness our experiences from another perspective. All we have to do is be open and willing to see it, and then it will be revealed.

Thank you for being here,


  • May 6, 2015 - 1:39 am

    Sandra - This is such a wonderful reminder for me today…I have experienced similar situations in my field of work and I can really relate to your experience. Thank you so much fir sharing so openly – it’s nice to know I’m not alone.ReplyCancel

    • May 11, 2015 - 2:32 pm

      Jocelyn - Thank you for being here, Sandra! We can do this together! YAY! xxReplyCancel

  • May 6, 2015 - 7:49 pm

    Giova Brusa - I think all of us “creative souls” have experienced this, but I always think on what Maya Angelou said; “You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” I also think we are meant to win some and lose some as well. Life is full of lessons indeed!ReplyCancel

    • May 11, 2015 - 2:31 pm

      Jocelyn - Life is full of lessons indeed! I am trying not to see situations as “won” or “lost” as the duality is what causes discord in my life. As I have begun to practice seeing through the appearance of what is “this” or “that” my inner life has taken a deep breath and a sigh of relief. Thank you for sharing that Maya quote , I had never heard of that one before! Have a wonderful day, Giova! Jocelyn xxReplyCancel

  • May 7, 2015 - 8:44 am

    Catherine @ farmhousehome - It’s always a tough one when people run with your ideas, you can’t help but feel ripped off. Life sure is full of lessons and it’s helpful to be reminded about looking at things from a different perspective. 🙂ReplyCancel

    • May 11, 2015 - 2:32 pm

      Jocelyn - Thank you for stopping by, Catherine. It is always nice to have your kind spirit here xoxoReplyCancel

  • May 20, 2015 - 12:51 am

    tina @ Colourliving - Yeah! Lessons to be learned.

    For me, the key is to choose the right people to entrust stuff with and I’m happy to share that I’ve cracked that bit:-)

    The creative well is never ending xxReplyCancel

    • May 20, 2015 - 6:15 pm

      Jocelyn - I learned a long time ago to trust the process, not people. Everything is a lesson and I am so glad I see life this way or else it would be a meaningless life. Thank you for stopping by, it always nice to have you here 🙂 xxReplyCancel

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