If you have spent any time on this blog, you will know these essays are not meant to be advice, they are simply my way of sharing what I have learned along the way.
When I see or hear the word considerate I immediately think of a deep thanks, one that comes from the heart and is not just a saying or a rambling of words.
When I was younger, I was taught to be considerate to animals, plants and people. My chores were taking care of my horses and dogs before school that required a 5 am wake up call. It never occurred to me that sleeping longer would mean I would be happier, I was as happy as I could be considering the thoughts of others. My father grew watermelons, zucchini, squash, cantaloupe and green beans. My sister and I were responsible for picking it during the summer months when school was out. By the age of 8 I was driving a tractor the size of my condo. By 9 I was handling fruit and vegetables to take to our local market. I am not talking about a veggie garden here; we worked over 50 acres of land to treat our food considerately. Catching my drift here? People were no different; we were encouraged always to treat everyone kindly and with love.
When I became an adult life got a little harder, and I became a serial perfectionist. My control issues were sky high, and my inner interior resembled more of a rat race than a nicely designed space. A divorce is what cracked me open, it split my inner life in two and I had to then and there decided if I living a considerate life was something I could go back to. Of course I wanted this but how was I suppose to do that when my mind was overloaded with beliefs I didn’t really believe?
I became very aware of my thoughts and learned that I was in control of how much I let those pesky little wandering trolls get to me. Today I see this time was a beautiful teacher, and my assignment was to grow and return to my true nature, a considerate woman.
Do you ever find yourself in a space where you cannot even be considerate to yourself? Do you doubt your ability to create an amazing life for yourself and family? Well, if you do maybe these tools will come in handy that may help keep you aligned with living the considerate life:
1. Consider another option. When we get busy, our minds often can only stick to one “track.” Ask yourself this, “would you consider doing this another way?” This questions offers another way, and as we know, there is always another route!
2. Be aware of your footprint. How are you stepping into a situation? Are you creating more mess with old habits and story lines on your shoes? Bring a fresh perspective by creating principle based intentions to your life every single day. Make an intention to be kind to yourself and DO IT. Step lightly and gently….this is not to be confused with not caring, it is a whole other level of kindness.
3. Find one thing to celebrate. When we can look at an area of our life and celebrate it, we can let that happiness extend to other parts of our lives. Everyone has something to celebrate and be grateful for so why not start with that at the beginning of each day? Carry that feeling in your heart for as long as you can and wait for that expanded feeling to arise.
Finally, being considerate towards yourself and others is a practice, and it is hard sometimes when we get tired. Just remember, what we devote ourselves to is what we receive.
Do you have any practices that keep you aligned with living a considerate and kind life?
I wish you a lovely day filled with many moments of happiness,