Hello everyone! After a few days of resting my inner interior I would like to share my keynote with those of you who were not able to attend The Hive. I spoke about my experience with applying mindfulness to blogging and how it has brought a sense of peace to my blog and nevertheless, profound material. Profound is a word I use a lot, and for me it is a word that closely relates to authenticity. The more mindfulness tools I use, the more it becomes a part of my being and as that becomes whole my inner voice, my true voice can be shared in my blog which is about the most profound thing I think anyone can do.
It would be foolish for me to sit here and write to you or stand up and give a talk thinking I was going to “teach” anyone anything. Through my experiences in life I have learned my answers do not come from others, they are found within my own inner interior and when they are heard they are unshakeable. I have come to know everyone single one of us have our own answers and sometimes we just need someone to ask us the question that leads us to our golden thread. Sharing is something I have done since I was a little girl and the principle of giving what I have to anyone runs deep in my veins. I have a strong sense that one of my purposes here on earth is to share my experience to help others. So, I dedicated this presentation to my purpose and I am humbled to share it with you today.
Mindfulness is not a trend, it is a way of living. I was first introduced to mindfulness as a practice by my mentor, Moe Ross. Moe helped me to incorporate this practice into my everyday life and when I started to see that blogging was creating some blocks for me I began to supplement it into my life as a blogger. How many times do we judge ourselves or others throughout the course of a day? How many times during the week do you compare yourself to another blogger or get jealous that they published a book? Do you ever get down on yourself when you are criticized by a reader? If you do, you are not alone and please know there is help and the thoughts do not have to run your life, blogging or not. If you happen to be enlightened kind, you know, Buddha and all, then you don’t need to be reading this. With just a few tweaks here and there we can truly shift our focus to the direction of where we want to go….all it takes is awareness and THAT is exactly what we have in this post.
You may have heard me talk about principles before. I try to live my life every moment by principles rather than personalities. If I meet someone and let’s say they are acting a little cold or what could look like “angry” then I would be seeing their personality, it is not who they really are. Remember this: we are all doing the very best we can, no matter what. I do not need to concern myself with their personality or principles, I focus on what is my PRINCIPLE when it comes to communicating with others. You want to to know what it is? See through the appearance of my eyes “see” and know behind all the “personality” is a lovely woman or man who would if they could. Now, please know this, I have a hard time sometimes doing this 100% of the time. In fact, it is the hardest practice in my tool box. My mind gets in the way so much and I my practice “fires” automatically now which has taken me 3 years to get to. You will be able to do it faster if you choose to join me, I know you will! So, will you lead by your principles or by personality?
As bloggers we all have felt that surge of creative energy, those brilliant ideas that cannot be written down fast enough. I don’t know about you guys but this has happened to me a few times and when it does I have noticed a trend, I am not “thinking” of something in particular. When I take a walk and just take in the beauty that is surrounding me I am flooded with creativity because the mind is not in charge, it is simply quiet.
How do you talk to yourself? Do you use the word but a lot? How about the word perfect? Every word we speak, matters and has a profound impact on the way our day flows. Moe introduced me to the shift in language and I tell you, it changed my life. Isn’t it funny how the smallest exercises can really change our experience? See how this sounds for you if you can feel the difference: I am nervous but I am going to speak anyway. I am nervous and I am going to speak. The word “but” implies that there is a negative pulse running through it which creates a block as opposed to the word “and” which leads with a sense of allowance and support. Another example is when I would tell myself the blogpost needed to be perfect or else I wouldn’t get noticed. Ok, for one I was posting for the wrong reasons…at the time I believed what I had been taught which was you have to get “noticed” in order to make it big. After a while I replaced the drive for perfection with excellence and my entire experience changed. Words matter, style them well.
Want a different experience? Then the solution for that is to change your perspective. I realize this may sound difficult but I am sharing with you the tool which is to be aware of how you can shift your experience. We are all able to change our experience of something in an instant! It is all down to the way we perceive what is in front of us. If we get a negative comment in our inbox we have the choice to either take it on and fight it or realize that everyone is entitled to their opinion and remember this: everyone is living their own experience which is revealed in their work, spoken words and written comments. I have received negative comments and I am grateful for them, sometimes they are there to teach me and show me where I need to grow. If we can get passed the initial shock, we can rest in knowing we are all learning together, one post at a time.
This slide is really important! I don’t care how long you have been blogging, it is very easy to compare ourselves to others. Very easy. I don’t agree with the fact that comparing ourselves is always “bad”. If I find myself comparing myself to another person I study them for a moment and see what it is I like so much. After all, I wouldn’t spend so much time comparing myself if they had something I didn’t want for myself. If I “see” it, I go and get it!