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The Fragrance of a Thoughtful Woman

There is a question that has taken residence in my heart lately, and the answer has a appeared like a feather from the bright blue sky.

As women, how do we add more love into the world? Beyond the quotes, the hallmark cards that eventually end up in the bin, or the Valentine’s day chocolates how do we leave the fragrance of our love everywhere we go?

Throughout my journey, I have found my best days to be the ones where my mind wasn’t leading me. My heart took a stance for my outer world and led me to the places I was able to be of service. I never understood the power of love before I began to give and give even when my mind would fight me. Love leaves a fragrance like no other. It is a soft and gentle breeze that lingers in the air for days. You know the kind, like the sweet smell of jasmine that takes you back to that holiday where you felt free and joyous. I have this with coconut water; the smell takes me back to when I met my husband, and we had our first holiday together in Miami. Every time I smell it and taste it I am instantly transported back to that time in history.

What if we carried within us our unique “fragrance” of the divine feminine woman who loves no matter what?

This new woman doesn’t talk poorly about people; she understands the nature of life as being incredibly hard at times.

Her willingness to listen is deep and vast – she avoids the temptation to fix people.

She loves and loves and loves.

Her judgements never leave her mouth.

Her self-respect resides within the walls of her heart and shares that same respect with the person next to her.

She welcomes someone to sit next to her when they are alone.

Extending a genuine smile at someone and reminding herself we are all the same but different.

Her thoughtful heart goes before her to make the crooked road straight.

The tendency to be a perfectionist dissolves as soon as she realizes there is no such thing.

By nightfall, she is grateful for the hard because she knows she can “do hard” in soft ways.

Artwork by Anastasia Benko

What if this was the “new” woman? I realize this is not the easiest of tasks, but we don’t need to perfect it, we only need to try our best. By the way, when I write “we” I am speaking to those who choose to practice leaving our fragrance wherever we go.

Before we enter a room, let’s remember that we have the potential to alter a person’s day. The love within us can open windows where there is total darkness. All we need to do is be aware of it. Just like that coconut, we have the power to make an impact, a gentle one that lasts for years, if not forever.

Just as this beautiful woman drawn by Anastasia Benko carries flowers with her, we are no different. What we carry within us is what we deliver to others. Let’s make it beautiful, meaningful and thoughtful. The times we don’t may we allow ourselves to begin again and know we did the best we could with what we had in that moment.

Join me?





p.s. I am not intentionally leaving men out of this practice but since I am woman I am simply taking responsibility for my part in the world. If you are a man reading this please do feel my love for you, too.

  • January 21, 2016 - 5:20 pm

    Nanci - Such a beautiful and insightful post and one that needs repeating often. I love your style of writing. It draws me near and makes me want to linger….ReplyCancel

    • February 1, 2016 - 6:23 pm

      Jocelyn - Thank you, Nanci. How kind of you to be so thoughtful! Wishing you a beautiful day xReplyCancel

  • January 21, 2016 - 8:32 pm

    Nancy - This is so beautiful Jocelyn. I would like your words on my wall where I can see it everyday as a lovely reminder. 💓💕ReplyCancel

    • February 1, 2016 - 6:23 pm

      Jocelyn - Oh that would be nice!!!!! I am so glad xxReplyCancel

  • January 21, 2016 - 9:51 pm

    Mel - Jocelyn, wow such a beautiful thought provoking post. You’re on the way to this with your sincerity … and not far my dear. M xxReplyCancel

  • January 22, 2016 - 5:06 am

    Lucy - You are such an inspiration! Beautiful insights thoughtfully expressed! Oh, and gorgeous art work!ReplyCancel

    • February 1, 2016 - 6:23 pm

      Jocelyn - You my friend are a beautiful piece of art xxReplyCancel

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