Within my life, there is a purpose for everything. Every place I go, each person I meet, I intend to make a difference. This blog is an example of purpose, and if anything, maybe one day Oskar will read them and know more about me. The words I write here are not meant to be instructions or a “how to” guide. Please take what you want, and leave the rest. Know that within you, there are answers you need for all of life’s questions. It would be foolish and arrogant of me to think I know what is best for you. I hope you enjoy reading these essays and find some source of inspiration and support between every single line.
The talk of tribes is common in the blogging world and one I contemplate a lot. What exactly is a tribe? What does it look like and how do they support each other? Do you consider yourself a part of a group of people that encourage one another?
I have come to find I don’t want to be a part of a particular tribe or a click group, after all, I am a woman, not a fifth-grade schoolgirl. Having followers is not something I am interested in either.You know what happens to gurus and people on a pedestal? They FALL! Hard.
I would love to see the day when everyone is supportive of everyone when bloggers don’t just give shout outs to their past students and people who can do something for them. Wouldn’t it be beautiful if those who have come to the point where they are well respected (by a large audience) welcomed in others that are doing brilliant work?
It seems many tribes are formed on the basis of what each member can do for one another rather than simply being supportive. I understand this on a certain level, competition is rife but in my experience, competing with our kind is never going to produce a prize. Taking the time to reach out, comment and stay connected as much as we can is what forms a stable and strong bond amongst the a tribe. I always remind myself that not only I, but everyone else is doing the very best we can.
Would you like to join me in a movement to spread goodness? To love a little more and extend the barriers of your tribe requires a dose of mindfulness. My practice will remain the same; comment, share and make other people a priority. If you wish to join all you have to do is take the focus off your work and extend kindness towards someone else; this is the very thing we are told not to do. I have been encouraged by blogger turned “teachers” to hustle, keep the blinders on and grind it out no matter what. How in the world is that form of working ever going to create a fellowship?
I have experienced many (ok, too many) incredibly humbling situations which have led me to my main practice of not centering life around myself. My life is not about me anymore; it is about being of support to others. I can assure you this is a deep and sometimes difficult practice, but I work hard to implement it in every room of my life trusting one day it will come naturally to me.
I am grateful to the group of people who consistently support me by visiting here and sprinkling their fragrance with words, you all know who you are and I appreciate you more than you know.
Let’s build a universal tribe that reminds everyone they are welcome, loved, and worthy and watch our lives change right before our eyes.
photo is my own – from my parents garden.